As is yet another holiday tradition for this sentimental Beard, we send you greetings From Ocean Beach CA right here in San Diego.
May your Christmas Eve be joyous and peaceful!
Next flight… First Class into San Diego. Woo Hoo!
Interesting word. Clearheaded state of being. Has many interpretations. Isn’t for everyone. Is wonderful for me.
My sobriety date is 7 November 2011. That was my first day without drugs or alcohol.
I haven’t used recreational substances since that date. I’m one of those who cannot use any. I can’t stop once I start. I tried moderation. I tried different substance. I tried different drinks. I tried controlling. I tried limiting. I tried period. I’d try then I couldn’t stop until I was sick, passed out, blacked out, injured, embarrassed, in trouble, lost, confused, missed work, lapsed responsibility …I couldn’t stop. I’d lost me.
Not everyone is like me. I found others like me that were not drinking. They weren’t drugging either. Things were working for them. I decided to try what they were doing. It worked for me. Not drinking worked for me. Alcohol was my mind altering drug of choice, the others were auxiliary enhancements. I don’t need them and I not longer drink.
There are many ways for people to live their lives. I’ve found a way that works for me. I celebrate the anniversary of making that discovery today. I celebrate five years of living one day at a time unaltered and sober. I like being this way. I actually enjoy hanging with my friends who do drink and those who don’t. I keep booze in my house for those who do drink and they keep Juice and club soda in their house for me.
I live life in a world of diversity. This beautiful life in this beautiful world. I love my life.
Fearsome and I are believers. We believe that as long as we are growing we are living and living well. We also believe that if we stop growing we start dying. Therefore we can occasionally be found at a seminar, reading something inspirational or simply on the phone with our business coach. Yes we have a coach. Coaches give us accountability and guidance to help us reach our goals.
Last week we attended Brian Buffini’s Mastermind Summit and had the pleasure of being photographed with none other than….
When we are ready, the teacher will appear. When we are ready the message will resonate with us.
What message resonated with me at this place in my time and space? Perspective.
From speaker Andy Andrews: Perspective….our thinking determines our choices, but we choose how we think. “Perspective can radically change results without ever changing fact.”
Our take is simply this: How can we move on and get to the next level when we feel stuck? Change our perspective. How do we do that? Starting with gratitude we can open our minds to the possibilities around us. Once we are open we can see opportunity or at least start moving in a positive direction until an opportunity arises. Then all we must do is act, work, share, give, learn, grow and be even more grateful.
“Life itself is a privilege, but to live that life to the fullest….well, that is a choice.” Andy Andrews
Giddy-up, Giddy -up!
Ok so this just freakin’ hurts.
You see I had a calcium deposit on the end of the shoulder bone that was to be removed via Arthroscopic Acromioplasty -and- A biceps Tenodesis procedure. I was warned beforehand that if a rotator cuff tear was found while they were in there it would be repaired, however no tear APPEARED present on MRI.
Well when I snapped the post operative selfie that was posted Wednesday still under the left over anesthesia I didn’t really know what had taken place. My surgery had taken much longer than estimated due to a significant tear in that rotator cuff. The calcium deposit they were removing had pretty much turned my tendon into hamburger.
All fixed now. All fixed but my estimated recovery time has now doubled and the pain is everything that anyone who has had shoulder surgery will share in detail when given the opportunity.
So while I will be getting better soon….right now pain meds are my friend. My friend in relief even though I hate the way they make me feel overall, they do relieve the pain.
I’ll be back soon and in the mean time you know why I may be a bit absent.
Apparently there was a small rotator cuff tear that was discovered once the surgeon gained access through the incision so that was repaired as well. . We just got home and are now on the road to recovery.
Tomorrow will mark two years since this happened….click HERE.
Fearsome is ecstatic. His new Whisker Dam arrived in our mailbox today.
Fearsome’s mustache has been on the grow of recent. You see after Fearsome’s big trim last fall we decided to return to growth over mistakenly perceived necessity for a conforming conservative look. We also decided to let his mustache grow into its glory as well, with no unnecessary trimming. You know…big beard AND big ‘stache…
After stumbling upon the Whisker Dam and reading a couple reviews I decided to treat us to one and see if this thing might really work. We are happy to report that yes the Whisker Dam is a mightly fine product. No more coffee stains all down the front of my shirt. Why we might even dare to wear white again, on occasion, now that we have one of these fabulous thingys.
If you are a hirsute fellow like ourselves, or just a plain old pogoniac, we highly recommend clicking HERE to go over to the Whisker Dam website and pick up one for yourself.
As they say on their website, “It’s like an umbrella for your face”.
May Peace be yours. Give it and share it with Goodwill to all.
…..He that is of merry heart hath a continual feast. ………Proverbs 15:15
Fearsome and I are not ones to go around quoting out of the bible. However the bible does have many bits of wisdom that do apply to living a good life. We didn’t even find the wonderful words above in the bible. It’s not something that we read. We found this inspirational phrase in a little book we picked up at Comic-Con 2015.
This nice little book was purchased because we believe in the Snoopy Dance. We are fans of Snoopy. The little book is full inspirational quotes from many different sources and many walks of life. There is a character that I adore that said something similar in the short 10 second clip below:
Yep you guessed it, Fearsome and I are cup half full, actually full to over flowing kind of guys.
Our point is this, when you are merry of heart the world really is a great place! Go ahead….Live!… and do the Snoopy Dance!
A long while back I got some criticism about my avatar.
The person who was apparently offended by its upside down appearance strongly implied that I was too lazy or too dumb to correct it. They also let me know immediately that they preferred not to converse with others who were so lazy that they wouldn’t correct such errors. I decided it best to not respond to them as I didn’t care to waste my time conversing with someone so judgmental.
A year passed since that encounter. Today another misunderstanding of a similar but different subject occurred out in blogland. I chose to not respond to that judgmental person either. I did decide it’s time to reflect on such encounters.
First of all I took my avatar as a selfie laying upside down on the couch. I experimented a lot with beard selfies in creating the blog. The photo is actually the way it was taken. I liked it and chose it. Second I do actually know how to right it and did, but still chose the original because I liked it better.
The lesson this teaches me is to not judge. Just appreciate. Appreciate that each of us have different taste, perception, priorities, humor, likes/dislikes, self images and such. Differences are to be appreciated, not judged or suppressed.
This is the twist. I have to respect that these two persons I reflect on are different from me. While I chose to not respond to their “suggestions”, I have to be careful to not judge them. I learn to move on and appreciate myself and continue just being me. They have their opinion and that’s ok. It’s their opinion, and I have my own opinion. I own my own expression.
I wrote the last (written) post observing those boarding the plane. I noted the seat beside me was still empty. Just as I was proof reading my observations had stopped and my focus had turned to posting before the boarding door closed. My seat mate arrived and I didn’t pay him much attention. I got up, let him into his seat and settled back into mine as I hit the post button. We acknowledged each other briefly and the flight got under way.
He got into his MacBook and I into the movie on my iPad. Bad movie, I don’t know why I continued to watch it. I guess I hoped some message was going to come through to save it. I had the red pepper quiche breakfast entree, my seat mate turned down the breakfast offering.
After getting back into the bad movie I changed my position for comfort of viewing. I was angled just so I could see his MacBook. This wasn’t on purpose, but for comfort. Bad movies make for easy distraction I guess because I started to get distracted by how fast he was going from homepage to article to home page to picture, you get the idea. It was like this guy had ADHD. Then I noticed he had up a page with Joe Niego on it. Odd, I go to real estate conferences where Joe speaks. Back to my movie.
Nature calls and the restroom was open. While washing the hands, and the mind wandering, I realized Joe Niego lives in Chicago. I was flying to Chi-town. Then the thought that maybe this guy beside me was in real estate as well. Maybe even in the same coaching program as myself. So before I left the tight confines of the lavatory, I decided that maybe I should introduce myself to my seat mate. You know, network for business.
As I take the five steps from the airplane head back to my seat I give Mr. Seatmate a good look in the face. Oh shit! This guy isn’t going to Chicago to see Joe Niego, he is Joe Niego.
I sit down and then think to myself how do I approach this one. As my mind starts to go full speed I’m thinking “here half the flights over, you’ve been seeing this guy at conferences for 10 years, you have to introduce yourself, it’s rude to have ignored him for the last hour and a half, what will he think?” I turned on the bad movie again. You know the kind, a young twenty somethings love drama.
What am I going to say? Do I just wait until we are landing? I don’t want to bother him. Dammit head shut up. Then it happened. Joe stopped his computer work to plug it into the seat power. I lean over and use his own words, the script he has taught me for years, to ask for a referral from him. He looks me in the eye with a big smile and said “I thought you looked familiar. You’re the guy who wears the San Diego baseball jersey to the events.”
We had a great conversation. He asked me questions that may help him to get to know his audience a bit better. He asked me questions that made me think. He inspired me. He even got his wife a leaf blower for her birthday. I complimented him on being a romantic.