Is he out of control?
We, Fearsome and myself, have some decisions to make. The decisions have to do with the size of Fearsome and work image. Also career, am I really in the right one?
I sell Real Estate. Mostly high end Real Estate in one of the more expensive markets in the country. I am in California so the image is, Thank God, not what one must keep in other cities. We are more relaxed here, but only so relaxed. I have been pulled aside by a very close colleague (a dear, trusted friend) and have been asked to give Fearsome a healthy trim. I, and he, are not upset by this as he is VERY large for beards presently.
Large beards on powerful men have not been common place since the late 1800s and very early 1900s. With the changing times and advent of the industrial revolution bringing us Gillete and mass marketing, big beards went out of vogue and stayed that way until very recently. It wasn’t until about 15 years ago that even a short cropped beard was accepted into the corporate world and in many cases still isn’t. Big beards were only acceptable on artists or Rebels until the past 2-3 years they have been creeping into a more mainstream acceptance as time passes.
We believe in another 3-5 years big beards will become more accepted and show up on more and more powerful men. That’s in the future and we are here together today. We must face it, Fearsome and myself are ahead of our time.
We do not have to make our final decision for a couple weeks. So we are not feeling pressure and we wish to contemplate and to work together for an amicable decision that works for us. We, Fearsome and myself, are a team not matter what size he is.
One thing I realized yesterday is the growth I have experienced in myself of recent. Huge growth. There was a time, even very recently, that a conversation like I had yesterday with my dear colleague, I would have taken personally and been very hurt. I would have reacted and most likely not in the best manner. I realized that we had a conversation, I understood what my friend was saying and I didn’t take it personally. I took it as a consideration well worth considering. That’s growth, huge growth for me. As I stated in the beginning of this here blog thingy, this is a place where I can grow as Fearsome grows and I have. I also noted at one point that beards sometimes need trimming to strengthen, as do we. So the time has come to look deep inside and consider the trim to strengthen both myself and him as well.
Our considerations will be this:
1) Trim Fearsome and move on in the current direction.
2) Leave Fearsome alone and maybe strike out on my own in the current career.
3) Asses my life, goals, talents, wants and ambitions and see if maybe a change in careers is what I need.
These are important considerations. Ones that I must not take lightly. I deeply love Fearsome and had planned to continue growing, even go to Comic-Con as Dumbledore this year. Fearsome did remind me that he grows and grows and grows even when I trim him. He reassured me that if I trimmed him and couldn’t live with myself for it, that he would happily grow back.
So let’s see what our final decisions will be… Number 1 is probably the choice we will make, but we have time and we will contemplate. Our soul is only growing deeper and stronger as we do.