Is he out of control?
We, Fearsome and myself, have some decisions to make. The decisions have to do with the size of Fearsome and work image. Also career, am I really in the right one?
I sell Real Estate. Mostly high end Real Estate in one of the more expensive markets in the country. I am in California so the image is, Thank God, not what one must keep in other cities. We are more relaxed here, but only so relaxed. I have been pulled aside by a very close colleague (a dear, trusted friend) and have been asked to give Fearsome a healthy trim. I, and he, are not upset by this as he is VERY large for beards presently.
Large beards on powerful men have not been common place since the late 1800s and very early 1900s. With the changing times and advent of the industrial revolution bringing us Gillete and mass marketing, big beards went out of vogue and stayed that way until very recently. It wasn’t until about 15 years ago that even a short cropped beard was accepted into the corporate world and in many cases still isn’t. Big beards were only acceptable on artists or Rebels until the past 2-3 years they have been creeping into a more mainstream acceptance as time passes.
We believe in another 3-5 years big beards will become more accepted and show up on more and more powerful men. That’s in the future and we are here together today. We must face it, Fearsome and myself are ahead of our time.
We do not have to make our final decision for a couple weeks. So we are not feeling pressure and we wish to contemplate and to work together for an amicable decision that works for us. We, Fearsome and myself, are a team not matter what size he is.
One thing I realized yesterday is the growth I have experienced in myself of recent. Huge growth. There was a time, even very recently, that a conversation like I had yesterday with my dear colleague, I would have taken personally and been very hurt. I would have reacted and most likely not in the best manner. I realized that we had a conversation, I understood what my friend was saying and I didn’t take it personally. I took it as a consideration well worth considering. That’s growth, huge growth for me. As I stated in the beginning of this here blog thingy, this is a place where I can grow as Fearsome grows and I have. I also noted at one point that beards sometimes need trimming to strengthen, as do we. So the time has come to look deep inside and consider the trim to strengthen both myself and him as well.
Our considerations will be this:
1) Trim Fearsome and move on in the current direction.
2) Leave Fearsome alone and maybe strike out on my own in the current career.
3) Asses my life, goals, talents, wants and ambitions and see if maybe a change in careers is what I need.
These are important considerations. Ones that I must not take lightly. I deeply love Fearsome and had planned to continue growing, even go to Comic-Con as Dumbledore this year. Fearsome did remind me that he grows and grows and grows even when I trim him. He reassured me that if I trimmed him and couldn’t live with myself for it, that he would happily grow back.
So let’s see what our final decisions will be… Number 1 is probably the choice we will make, but we have time and we will contemplate. Our soul is only growing deeper and stronger as we do.
When I get a new follower I try, time allowing, to get over to their blog and check it out. I often leave a comment or like a post and follow if the content is resonating with me. Recently I got a follow from a blog in a different language. I checked a few post and couldn’t understand as it was a launguage that I had absolutely no knowledge of whatsoever. Just as I was about to leave the page I hit a post that had just one portion in English. It had a good message that I knew I had to share.
I took a quick screenshot of the English part, left a comment that I would like to share it and clicked off to get back to work. The next day as I sat down to write my post I went to my followers so I could give proper credit. The blog was no longer following me. Crap! The screenshot didn’t show the name of the blog and I had no way to find out where this came from. So I decided to wait and see if this follower came back, or if I could somehow trace back to give credit. Nothing.
So to everyone out in wordpressland… One of you inspired me and I thank you for it. I am rewriting the inspiration in my own text but it was one of you who gave me the insight and the meat of this post:
It seems that numerical forces and our English alphabet have conspired to send us an important message. If one were to give a numerical value to each letter of the alphabet in order from 1 to 26 the truth about 3 words adds up, giving us confirmation of the true value of these words.
A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
K N O W L E D G E is powerful and will get you far. 11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5=96%
H A R D W O R K is even more powerful and will take you further. 8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11=98%
A T T I T U D E is the sure fired way to get there and anywhere you want to go. 1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5=100%
I found this on The Huffington Post this morning. It’s a list of the 100 greatest gay movies of all time on thebacklot.com. I don’t know exactly how they go about their ratings but it is some sort of poll. I found it interesting and wish to refer back to it so I post it here. Who knows may one or three of you will too.
We’re a thousand miles from comfort, we have traveled land and sea
But as long as you are with me, there’s no place I’d rather be
I would wait forever, exalted in the scene
As long as I am with you, my heart continues to beat
With every step we take, Kyoto to The Bay
Strolling so casually
We’re different and the same, get you another name
Switch up the batteries
If you gave me a chance I would take it
It’s a shot in the dark but I’ll make it
Know with all of your heart, you can’t shake me
When I am with you, there’s no place I’d rather be
N-n-n-no, no, no, no place I’d rather be
We staked out on a mission to find our inner peace
Make it everlasting so nothing’s incomplete
It’s easy being with you, sacred simplicity
As long as we’re together, there’s no place I’d rather be
When I am with you, there’s no place I’d rather be
When I am with you, there’s no place I’d rather be
You, yes you who is reading this…there’s no place I’d rather be…with you, right now.
(thanks to Clean Bandit for these beautiful words, thank you for being right here right now and thanks to my Better Half as he knows I wouldn’t be anywhere else, he means the world to me.)
One thing I know for sure is that the answers to that question will change as my life changes. Or at least I hope my answers change, at least a little.
Another thing I know for sure right now is that I hope I continue to learn and grow, to be open and curious. I believe as long as we are learning we are living. Through knowledge and understanding my perspectives will change.
So what do I know for sure right now where I am in my life experience?
I know that love is the most powerful force. I know that fear is not good for me, or for anyone. I know it’s best to not live in fear. I know that understanding relieves fear. I know that openness leads to understanding. I know respect for others comes from respect for oneself. I know that to get love, we must first give love. I know that the more we give, the more we receive. I know that in any situation there is good. I know that if we look for good and remain open to it, we will find it. I know that light cures darkness and love cures hate. I know that I am thankful for this life. I know I love laughter. I know that I’m making a big pot of chili on my stove at this very moment. I know that if I’m grateful for what I have and appreciate it, I will feel content. I know that contentment is really happiness. I know that if I take my gifts for granted that I will feel ungrateful and maybe even bitter. I know I have talents I have not yet discovered. I know that my six dogs are resting peacefully at my side. I know that I choose how I react. I know that in my choices I build my own experience.
I know for sure that whether I think “I can” or “I cannot” I am correct.
What do you know for sure?
I mentioned recently that in the hubbub of the holidays and buying Fearsome his Top Hat, that I completely forgot to write out my personal goals for 2015. I did my business goals for my company and my business coach….but the personal ones slipped through. Personal goals support my business goals because they give me a WHY.
Why do I do what I do? I sell homes. I enjoy helping people find their place, their home, their nest. I also enjoy helping people invest and make the most of their investment. But why? I do get satisfaction, enjoyment, purpose and self worth from what I do, but I need more. I need the emotional, personal reason for getting out there and taking the extra step. Work can be very rewarding and enjoyable, but so much more so when I have the personal goals that are supported by my income, my business.
Personal goals give me a why. When I have a why going the extra mile and giving 110% is easy. I finished my 2015 personal goals today and I feel good. I have the extra spark to rise to the challenge tomorrow and make this one remarkable year. The one personal goal I will share here is that I will learn ASL this year.
American Sign Launguage has always interested me. I have a few deaf friends that I can communicate with because they do read lips, but having this ability will make it so much easier for us to communicate. I needn’t put it all on them to read my lips when I can learn ASL, they cannot learn to hear. I will open myself to new friends that can’t read my lips. I will deepen relationships and can help when others need to communicate with hearing impaired. I can grow my soul, charachter and mind by developing this skill and sharing it with others.
Fearsome likes the goals I have set, he plans to help keep me accountable.
There are not many who are more Fearsome than Betty White. This skit is a classic. I wish I could find a full size copy but there is just not one availble that I can find. The audio is good and the audio is all one needs since this is supposed to be radio. If you missed this skit, it is a must. If you’ve seen it I bet you watch it again cause it’s just too damn good!
Laughter helps us grow! Enjoy….
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul.
….William Earnest Henley
Do we create our own life? Destiny?
A subject that can take many different paths, with many different opinions and could be quite lengthy.
My simple easy take on it is this: Yes we do create our own lives.
I believe we create our lives by how we percieve what is around us and what happens to us. We react to what we percieve. It is in how we react and what we choose to do with it that allows us to create.
If we focus on the bad or the negative then that is what we see, we close ourselves to any opportunity that may come with the situation in front of us. If we focus on the good in any situation we open ourselves to what could be and what could be better thus we are open to opportunity.
To me life is a choice. Do I wish to choose to see opportunities or do I wish to only see dead ends?
I choose to choose good, openness and opportunity. I choose to create my life, write my own story, paint my own destiny and grow as Fearsome grows.
The possibilities are endless.
Congratulations to Blobby. He’s celebrating his 30th anniversary today. If you get a chance hop over to his blog and wish him & 710 a happy one.
His post inspired me to look deeper into my relationship and relationships as a whole. I thank him for that. His insight into the work required as well as the learning involved is inspiring.
Work. Relationships whether romantic, marriage, family or friendships are work. The work is sometimes easy, hard, emotional or confusing but always fulfilling if worked on and worked through.
Some relationships are for a season, relationships that pass through quickly. These too can be rewarding if we take the time to learn and grow from them.
For the most part when we think of relationships we think of longer term for years and lifetimes. These can be the most fulfilling but only if we are willing to work, learn, grow, share and compromise. Laughter, tears, joy, anger, security, insight, love, conflict and contentment are some of the benefits of a relationship well lived. These feelings help us to grow ourselves and bond together.
My better half and I will be celebrating 25 years together in just a few months. Reading Blobby’s post was like reminiscing about our relationship and reassuring that we are not the only couple to have delt with good and bad throughout our time together. I can vouch for what he says, it’s work, but work worth the effort.
After all of these years together I still have to remind myself no one is perfect. No situation is perfect. I am not perfect. I think it’s important to remember this in all relationships we have in our lives or will develope in the future. Remember to have compassion, to share, to give and to take. Remember to be open, respect, learn, support and grow. Most of all I have found it most important to forgive. Forgive my partner, friend and family member as well as to forgive myself. When I encounter conflict I must pause and remember that there are two of us and we both have a part in it, not just the other…never blame, but accept and learn.
I hope that I will have many posts in the future years of this blog thingy about relationships as I learn and grow more. So far I have found that the most rewarding things in my life are those that I have shared with those I love. I hope that I have many more of these rewards as I wish for you the same.