It’s good to be missed

I received this picture this morning from home. My husband and my dogs miss me. It feels good to know I have a loving home waiting for me. 

Today was a wonderful day here on the beach. I am becoming fully relaxed. With my clearing mind I can see what is important. So with this thought I will contemplate the relationships that have value and support me. I am humbled by all the blessings I have. I need to savor what they mean and feel gratitude for them.

Since you are reading this, why not take a moment, right now, and think of one person that you value and do something nice for them. Call, text or write a note and brighten their day as well as your own. 

Mitzi. Abner, Virgil, Patsy and Gilda

Mitzi. Abner, Virgil, Patsy and Gilda

Advertisements

Travel and self

Tomorrow morning I set off on a usual get away to Ft. Lauderdale FL. I go there often, sometimes with my better half and sometimes without. This is a without trip. I enjoy time alone, traveling with myself. While it’s nice to travel together, we both enjoy alone time as well. I feel it’s good for me to go, read, reflect, get my own meals, walk, sleep meet new people and just do what I need for me. 

I have been traveling to Ft. Lauderdale off and on since 1984. Back then I was young and did the bar scene. Those were the days of the Marlin Beach Hotel which was an old 1950s mid century motel ocean front in the middle of the main strip of Ft. Lauderdale beach.

It was an all gay hotel that eventually gave way to development and is now a high rise Marriott timeshare resort called Beach Place. I went to my first T-Dance in 1984 at the Marlin Beach. I have been told that T-Dance was invented at the Marlin Beach in 1964. According to this legend the hotel had fallen on bad times and rented out the bar on Sunday afternoons to a gay man. He threw parties every Sunday afternoon calling them T-dance. Apparently he became very successful and eventually made enough money to buy the hotel and turned it into a gay resort.  The Marlin Beach saw it’s heyday as a gay resort in the 1970s & 1980s. I have never checked these facts but the place holds many fond memories for me. 

Today Ft. Lauderdale is a very popular gay destination. I live driving distance to Palm Springs but much prefer Ft. Lauderdale (it has an ocean…that is warm). I have a favorite resort just two blocks off the beach and am there so often the staff knows me quite well and even knows what room I want when I call for a reservation. It’s a clothing optional men’s resort that has 3 pools, two spas, a gym and about 63 rooms. It’s classic Ft. Lauderdale mid-century in design, has lush tropical gardens and is very well kept. The owner and staff are incredible hosts. if you ever plan a trip there I highly recommend it, The Worthington/Alcazar/Villa Venice Resort. 

So time with myself will be my journey the next few days. I will see some friends I have there and make new ones. I will work out, walk, swim, relax, meditate and contemplate. I will grow. Fearsome will also grow a little and will see his friends Shannon and Cole at American Made Barber Shop for a little maintenance. One must trim the tree of its weak branches to help it grow stronger. One must also trim the self of stress and weaknesses to grow stronger. May Fearsome and I trim, grow and become stronger. 

 

A postcard picture of The Jules Verne Room at The Marlin Beach Hotel circa 1960. This room later became the disco. It had windows into the pool which was apparently not uncommon in the hotels of the time there. Another pool like this can be seen in the movie Where The Boys Are which takes place in Ft. Lauderdale also about 1960. Today this is replicated in the new W Hotel on Ft. Lauderdale beach where you can actually walk up a glass enclosed staircase for the main bar through the pool to the pool deck. When I was dancing in the Jules Verne Room Disco in 1984 (then renamed The Poop Deck) men would often dive into the pool and show their goods to the patrons in the bar.

A postcard picture of The Jules Verne Room at The Marlin Beach Hotel circa 1960. This room later became the disco. It had windows into the pool which was apparently not uncommon in the hotels of the time there. Another pool like this can be seen in the movie Where The Boys Are which takes place in Ft. Lauderdale also about 1960. Today this is replicated in the new W Hotel on Ft. Lauderdale beach where you can actually walk up a glass enclosed staircase from the main bar through the pool to the pool deck. When I was dancing in the Jules Verne Room Disco in 1984 (then renamed The Poop Deck) men would often dive into the pool and show their goods to the patrons in the bar.

 

 

Fearsome Music

Led Zeppelin

I am, and as long as I can remember been, a Led Zeppelin fan. This tune is titled The Ocean. It is definitely one of my favorites. It is the last cut on their 1973 album Houses of the Holy. Houses of the Holy was their 5th studio album release. Released 3/28/73 it was a dedication to their fans and was the first album to be composed of completely original material. It has been certified for shipping 11 million copies to the US and was listed in 2003 by rolling stone as number 149 out of the 500 best all time albums. I was about 9 years old at the time of its release and saved every penny I had to buy it. It was the very first record I ever purchased with my own money and I still have it to this day. 

I don’t care where I am, what mood I am in or what I am doing….when Led Zeppelin is on I feel better and life is great. This tune especially lifts my spirit. 

Enjoy!

….oh so good…

Not mine but Sean’s over at Just a Jeep Guy

Yesterday was Sean’s birthday and he posted this TMI questionnaire:

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

1. Do you enjoy celebrating your birthday (forgetting about the getting older part)?

2. What’s your sign and is it accurate?

3. What’s your Chinese zodiac sign and is it accurate?

4. Do you celebrate your pet’s Birthday?

5. What was your best birthday?

6. What was your worst birthday?

7. What has been your best age so far?

8. Birthday cake? Candles?

BONUS Is birthday sex expected, a present or a rarity? Do you get spanked?

My answers are below. Would love for you to answer them either in my comments or on your blog. Original post can be found over at Just A Jeep Guy link in Fearsome Buds column. 

1) I like to lay low on my birthday. Quiet ones are best but I do like it acknowledged.

2) Capricorn and it’s pretty accurate. 

3) Rabbit (or Cat…both for this year only one with two animals) and it’s sort of maybe correct in a few ways. 

4) Yes we celebrate our pets birthdays!

5) My best birthday… Turning 40 in Sydney Australia. 

6) My worst birthday was turning 29, by far the worst. I thought for some reason that I should have everything figured out by that age. So much that turning 30 and realizing, accepting that I would never have it all figured out and that the journey as the key to happiness was a huge blessing.

7) My best age so far has been the late 40s. Fully realizing that this journey is wonderful and that accepting and forgiving are the keys to the kingdom. It’s not giving up, it’s winning by going with the flow and not against it. 

8) Birthday cake is a must, a vanilla cake with vanilla butter creme icing please and candles are a given.

Bonus Questions: Birthday sex not expected and is a rarity. I prefer no spanking please. 

Down day

Yesterday was the typical Monday…busy. That’s good, I felt great as usual and plowed through it. 

Then there was the wake up this morning…..that feeling… Get up now! Get your ass in the bathroom!

ok ok I know….TMI

So I get started and think ok that was it. I’m better. NOT. It got worse and I’m staying home today. I’m rarely ill but I either ate something or caught a little stomach bug. Needless to say I cancelled my yoga class this morning. Cramps, nausea and …. Well you get the picture. And that picture would not be pretty in a yoga studio. 

So I do have a lot of work to catch up on so that will be my focus today. I will also be grateful to get all of this backed up computer work done. My body needs a rest and my mind needs to clear so this will work fine and I will be better tomorrow on all counts. 

Enjoy your day and  give yourself a time out for a couple minutes and enjoy this clip… If Neil can pull this off, I can make it through today!

 

Fearsome Mindset…..

image

I believe we can change our mindset. I believe all of us do at times. Sometimes for the better and sometimes not. Attitude is in the definition and is obviously part of it, but why do we sometimes get stuck and stay with a rigid mindset? One that holds us back, closes our vision, makes us feel trapped and loose perspective. 

Beliefs can influence our mindset, but mindset is an attitude. Attitudes are easier to change. Is it not possible to have a belief but remain open to other perspectives? By being open and adjusting our mindset about a belief is it possible that we may see from better perspectives? Have better attitudes and outcomes? 

As a human when I step back and look at my mindset, I often find that when I have a closed and negative mindset I am often reacting in fear. If I take the time to realize this, to examine and learn from it I grow, change and feel better. I gain a better perspective by changing my attitude, my mindset. 

Today I will contemplate mindset and try to see where I can improve. Today I will look at where I can adjust and choose better. 

Be Fearsome and choose better…..

Have an incredible Sunday! Today is a gift, make the most of it.

 

 

Fearsome art

Red Boat 10x14 oil on canvas board.

Red Boat 10×14 oil on canvas board.

As most of you know from previous posts, I occasionally paint.

This was a very early painting of mine from 2007 painted in the garage of my instructor Catherine Dzialo-Haller, you can see her art here: 

http://www.dzialo-haller.com

It is a copy of one of her boat series paintings as an exercise for my classes. Catherine is a good friend of mine and taught me a lot. I have a 11 of her paintings hanging in my home. She has been painting for more than 50 years now and is a blessing to me.