noun – a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid.
Fear is something that we all face. I feel we face it more than we acknowledge. Fear affects how we see the world around us, perceive others actions and how we ourselves react and live our lives. The part of the definition above ( from dictionary.com ) that is resonating with me today is “whether the threat is real or imagined”.
Throughout our lives we observe, learn and internalize events. The associated or perceived feelings surrounding these events can stay deep ingrained in us and color our actions, reactions and beliefs. Fear can easily become a motivating factor in how we live our lives, make decisions and interact with others.
I have a fear of not being liked or included. This fear can manifest itself by my telling a story about myself that is twisted or expanded into a half truth that I feel might make the person(s) around me like me better. In other words not being completely honest with them or with myself. It can manifest by me putting someone down to raise myself up above them. It can manifest by my talking and trying rather than listening and empathizing. It can manifest in my becoming resentful and even angry.
I have many more fears, the above is just an example, a common example.
I am learning to examine my fears. To stop and look at myself when I am uncomfortable. To stop and look at why and what. To strive to not just react. To try to learn. To be honest with myself. To grow. To get to know myself and my motives better so that I may be better. To become more secure in myself that I may be stronger, more at ease in my own skin.
Life is a journey. I am enjoying this part of my journey right now. Looking at my fears and how they affect who I am. How I can acknowledge them, learn from them and become better. Today I will list a few on paper, then ask myself “is this real or imagined?” and examine from there.